Wicca On Non-Binary Genders And Intersex

I am not sure if I have mentioned it before but I am Wiccan. More specifically I consider myself an Eclectic Solitary Wiccan. In all religions it does fall on the question are queer people accepted in the religion? 

Wicca is not an organised religion by a sense. Wicca is a branch of paganism but many different Wiccans follow different paths and worship different deities and have different beliefs. Even if the same coven it is rare that two different Wiccans will hold the very same beliefs but many will be similar.

When it comes to non-binary genders I am referring to those who are made up by transphobic teenagers who have special snowflake syndrome, I am referring to the very real non-binary people who desire both genitals, or none or even moving fluidly between genders. Transgenderism is not a choice as many want it to be because they wish to deny that they hold any privilege, transgenderism is caused when a person's mind holds a mismatch to their genitals they have. For example I was born with a vagina and breasts and uterus but I have dysphoria that means sometimes I want no breasts and no genitalia, sometimes I want no breasts and a penis, sometimes I want breasts and a vagina, sometimes I want breasts and a vagina and penis, and sometimes I want no breasts and a vagina and a penis. That is what is it. Now I am not in a coven, but I would like to be, so I might not be the best person to talk about this as I do not have much experience facing discrimination within Wiccan or Pagan groups. 

However it is a general rule that within Paganism and Wicca itself that being transgender or non-binary people are accepted into individual study groups, covens, communities and circles. In fact this inclusion where sexual orientation and gender identity are not meant with hostility that draws many queer people towards Wicca, myself included. It is a heartwarming experience to fully embrace a religion that does not view you as a sin or immoral or an abomination. For those who haven't read the 'Energetic Boundaries' study guide by Karla McLaren it states that transgender people are magickal people. I believe this also implies to non-binary people as some people do not separate non-binary and transgender-which is in their rights to class themselves as transgender or not. 

That being said there are some individual paths within Wicca which are not so accepting to due an large emphasis of a union between man and women. Not only does this exclude transgender people but non-binary people who do not identify as male or female as well as queer people who are attracted to the same-sex.  Dianic Wicca is one of those which are notorious for being transphobic due to their belief that people have certain spiritual qualities deprived from biological sex. However I do believe that such groups are a minority while the majority are accepting.

As for acceptance of intersex individuals I am not intersex myself so my assessment is not based on personal experience but based on extensive research into Wicca and all its various paths as well as speaking in various forums. There is a lot of God and Goddess imagery but there is not open bigotry as far as I can see. People can not help how they are born after all and regardless of genitals many do respect that we are all human beings. Some do want to press "gender corrective" surgery but most are very accepting and open minded. Intersex people as well as those who are non-binary can chose whichever role they most identify with, feminine or masculine.  

In whole I do not find much issue being queer with Paganism or Wicca itself. While as in all groups there is some bigotry there is far more acceptance. In the Wiccan Rede it states 'as ye harms none, do as ye will' and a lot of Wiccans takes to mean open acceptance and tolerance towards all. I as an pansexual pangender Wicca have never been meet with open hatred or ignorance when around other Wiccans in real life or via the internet. I have always been meet with openness and understanding. Sometimes I have to explain what pangendered is but everyone is very welcome to learning and understanding. I am personally not against educating people. 

I know this is another short post and for that I apologise deeply but I don't believe I have anything left to say about being non-binary and intersex within Wicca. I don't want to repeat myself so I shall leave it as this. I hope I have helped people understand what it means to be non-binary within Wicca. I like to think that this blog isn't just helpful to me but helpful to everyone else too. 

Hidden In Plain Sight

I know it has been so long but I needed to take time away. Everything is so hard lately. I just don't know how to put everything in to words but I am hoping it will be therapeutic for me. I have always found opening up to be therapeutic and helpful to me. 

Most of you have been here before. Many of you know that my name is Morgan Taylor Kaged and that I am pangender. That I do not feel like I am a "women" but rather that I was born with the wrong genitals. Many of you also know that since I have came out that family life has not been easy for me. That I faced with daily bigotry and ignorance and erasure. That I have contemplated and hoped to move out. Recently in the time we have been parted I have done something that be made out of internalised hatred or maybe just desperation to be accepted. I have gone back into the closet about my gender as it were. I have hidden myself from people who are supposed to love and accept me no matter what. I pretend to be cisgender in the home where I live in secrets. Everyday I hear the words "daughter" and "she" and "sister" and I can not speak up, I can not defend myself. 

I have started roleplaying again; this gives me peace. It is fun and friendly and I don't have to worry about a thing. I have a Scott McCall role playing account on Tumblr at littleredtruealpha but have unfortunately had to go on a hiatus. My laptop is currently broke; it has been on its last legs for some time now. What happened was when my little brother pushed my laptop off my lap the pin on the hard drive broke. Its been sent off but I have to wait a week or two before the hard drive can be replaced. My computer skills are limited and I unfortunately do not know enough to replace an whole hard drive but I am learning to advance my skills. I enjoy computers a lot so learning more would be great. 

I am also starting a new job in October. My step-father gave me a part time job in his office for two days. Its eight hours and its a quiet office. I can manage that. When it comes to the "adult world" sometimes I find that my Autism prevents me from fully experiencing the world. That it makes everyday tasks harder and sometimes I can not cope. I am happy for this opportunity to work and earn some money for myself even though it means I must face hearing "miss" instead of "mx" which is my legal title. I am too nervous to correct this though as well I would have no way to not come out of the closet at home. I will have to suffer in silence. 

It hurts that after months and months of being free that I must trap myself once more but it was so hard. I couldn't take the consent bigotry, I was not strong enough. Yes I am a coward but I will willingly admit to being one. I know I am harming the non-binary community by my actions but I can not help it. I am also a coward as I am a avid activist. I stand for rights for non-binary genders and sexes but I do not have the courage to be open in my own home. I still openly out on Facebook and with my friends though. I find that I have been blessed to have wonderful and acceptable friends. I just wish the same could be said of my family. 

In the meantime I will focus more on my writing again. I will admit in my time away I was not focusing as much but now I am ready. If I can not be open then I shall do my best to normalise non-binary genders and intersex individuals as well as homosexual, bisexual, asexual and pansexual individuals. Maybe if I normalise them then I can make the world a better place, one where I can more easily come out and be myself.

I am also considering deleting my Tumblr and starting a new one free from fandom wank. I do love to engage in social justice within fandom areas but I joined Tumblr to escape the real world not deal with issues. However misogyny and femmephobia are rampant within fandoms as well as racism so I am not sure I can simply ignore it. In my own fandoms I have seen ableism grow everyday....it is something I am considering but it is not finale yet. I have until my computer is fixed to decide I suppose. 

I believe this to be short post, especially from someone who has been away for so long. However I have nothing more to say and at this point I would be endlessly repeating myself. I will try to communicate more often as I feel this blog is not only helpful to me but helpful to everyone else who reads as well. It is nice for everyone to know that they are not alone.